There is always a certain amount of bias in our judgments and that is the reality that we ignore frequently. Subjective thinking does not relate cause and effect properly. Cause and effect are correlated properly, only when the subjective bias is removed; objective thinking is essential for connecting them properly.
We react to people based on perceptions – which we falsely believe represent reality. We believe what we want to believe. We see only those things that we are looking for. Other things may also have been juxtaposed next to the things that we are looking for, but we do not see them.
We rarely see the cause and effect of any thing - even when they are obvious. We see mostly the effect. Very often, we tend to judge and sentence persons based on the effect only. It is seldom that two persons seeing an identical situation, interpret it in an identical manner. You may have a friend - call him "friend A". You think "A" is good because "A" has been sympathetic or helpful to you. Another person, say, "B", may not like "A", because, "A" has not been good to him. Thus, "A" can be both good and bad, when viewed from two different perspectives. Therefore, if some one considers a person as bad, it only reflects on their bilateral relationship - and it seldom indicates the intrinsic good or bad nature of the person. This is the essential nature of all subjective judgments that we constantly use in dealing with persons. When we think objectively, we realize, of course, the friend of an enemy need not also be our enemy.
Thus, we mostly see the effects. For most of us, the effects stand alone. Their connection to a cause is seldom a consideration. This is the cause of most of our suffering! Unfortunately, whatever we do to effects, we cannot change them. They get changed only when the cause is changed.
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