To "Say and then think" is even worse than to "act and then think". They say that “We are the masters of our unsaid words and slaves of those we let slip through".
Every one, no matter how old, commits mistakes. A child or a young person is perhaps more prone to commit mistakes than a mature person. When children commit mistakes, for instance, we lose our temper and yell at them. We heap the blame on them and call for explanation, causing a lot of harm to their psyche. In our anger, we may say many things to them without thinking and then, we feel sorry later.
Whenever we say something to the children and they get hurt – what has produced the hurt? It is the words - and the thoughts behind the words. How powerful these words are! And we use this power without thinking. Instead, if we were to say, "OK, child, whatever has been done, is done. You, like anyone else, cannot undo what has been done. There is no point in worrying over it now - there is nothing you can do after the event. Let us see what we can learn from this mistake", the child would not feel hurt at all; on the other hand, he may in all probability, overcome this habit though self-effort itself.
The next thought is about “How you allow a crisis to build”
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