It is a common human failing to hear good things said about oneself – and never hear bad things said about oneself. My former boss, Brigadier Chakravarti used to say, "If you have to talk about me at all, talk good things about me. You make sure that you talk well about me - to someone who will convey to me all those good things you said about me. At best, I would hear about it and like you immensely. At worst, I will probably suspect that you are flattering me for a purpose. But I cannot do anything to you when you talk good about me. I certainly can't be unpleasant to you because you are talking well of me! You see how helpless people become when you talk well of them". This is a very profound statement.
He also added, "But if you have to talk ill about me, only talk to yourself and not in front of any other person, however close he is to you today. These things have a way of coming back to me". I asked him, "What happens if they come back to you? How do you react? Would you believe what you hear?" He said, "You know people are like elephants - they have big ears but small eyes. After all, remember, I am also human, like any one else. When the opportunity comes, naturally, I will fix you!"
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