Whether we like it or not, all of us are constantly judging people. The more mature we are, the more objective this judgment is going to be. For instance, during my service, I was a member of the departmental promotion committee of a Technical Organization. I was always surprised and even shocked, sometimes, how a few members in this committee, judged the candidates for promotion based on their face, complexion and other irrelevant features – and not based on their professional knowledge and skills.
It is smart to keep your likes and dislikes on hold while judging people. Such persons are mature and their judgment will be found correct more often than not. They have well honed judging skills, which got developed over a period of time. They can smartly docket a person in no time at all.
Many people talk highly of themselves; they usually over-estimate themselves and their brood. There may be any number of reasons for this but we are not concerned with those reasons. How much of what they say should we believe? There is a need for judgment here again – because this is crucial.
I want to strike a note of caution here. People may over-estimate themselves - but do not under-estimate them, because they overestimate themselves.
Greed, untrustworthiness, negative attitudes and similar traits show out very easily in people – they stick out a mile. You do not need much maturity to detect them. It is only when these traits are smartly camouflaged that you really need all the judging skills that you can muster, supplemented by your sixth sense. Whenever there is a doubt, it is good to go by what your sixth sense says.
Keep a distance from people whom you judge as greedy, untrustworthy and prone to thinking negatively.
The next thought is about “Why people behave the way they do?”
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