Part 3 – psychological needs
- Fear and suspicion are the major causes of conflict. Have no fear (but be cautious). Try and dispel suspicion in others
- You are talking to yourself constantly. If this self-talk is negative, a poor self-image results and you build up a resentment towards others
- Make the self-talk positive and develop a high self esteem
- No one can harm you. By negative self-talk, you harm yourself. Since no one other than yourself can harm you, why have animosity towards others?
- Self-confidence and self-esteem make you look attractive. If you lack them, you look unattractive, even if you are handsome
- Learn to listen when others speak. Do not prejudge and stop listening. Similarly, learn to see and observe
- Often, what you see and hear may give you only misleading information. Try to find the real truth before you come to any firm conclusions
- Do not be guided solely by what others say. Frequently, people say things based on their prejudices or based on their own interests. Develop your own judgement and evaluate their statements objectively before you come to any firm conclusions
- If you try to conform to the expectations of others, you are always allowing them to modify your behavior to suit their interests. This does not allow self-confidence to build within you. Do what you think is in your interest and do not bother about what others think of you
- What people say to you is not so important as what motivated them to say that
- People take psychological positions, generally based on prejudices. Ignoring the position cancels its power.
- We may not be able to control events, but we should certainly be able to control our reactions to them. Do not be too sensitive to your own feelings. Learn to case harden yourself.
- Keep your ego under control. Remember, others too have ego and feelings. Be slow to react but be quick to respond
- Feel no anger but feign anger when necessary
The holistic approach to life (Continued)
- Make the self-talk positive and develop a high self esteem
- No one can harm you. By negative self-talk, you harm yourself. Since no one other than yourself can harm you, why have animosity towards others?
- Self-confidence and self-esteem make you look attractive. If you lack them, you look unattractive, even if you are handsome
- Learn to listen when others speak. Do not prejudge and stop listening. Similarly, learn to see and observe
- Often, what you see and hear may give you only misleading information. Try to find the real truth before you come to any firm conclusions
- Do not be guided solely by what others say. Frequently, people say things based on their prejudices or based on their own interests. Develop your own judgement and evaluate their statements objectively before you come to any firm conclusions
- If you try to conform to the expectations of others, you are always allowing them to modify your behavior to suit their interests. This does not allow self-confidence to build within you. Do what you think is in your interest and do not bother about what others think of you
- What people say to you is not so important as what motivated them to say that
- People take psychological positions, generally based on prejudices. Ignoring the position cancels its power.
- We may not be able to control events, but we should certainly be able to control our reactions to them. Do not be too sensitive to your own feelings. Learn to case harden yourself.
- Keep your ego under control. Remember, others too have ego and feelings. Be slow to react but be quick to respond
- Feel no anger but feign anger when necessary
The holistic approach to life (Continued)
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